It can't be Friday already! It's only one in the morning, but I've just been on the phone with Kimmeth for over three hours! I've learned so much, it's amazing! I really opened up and we talked about things that we've never discussed before, namely sex and having sex.
I called her earlier at seven, but she wasn't yet home. We talked about going to play pool but she was going to take a nap first. She slept until nine and laid in bed until ten, when she called. We never figured on talking for so long. She told me right from the start that she has some bad news for me, that Stuart might be coming back to Ft. Lauderdale. She's really happy and I told her that I'm glad for her, and in fact I am. She told me some particulars that she hadn't before. He already has two kids from two different women, and he's only 28. She said that they talked about getting her pregnant and he said that he wanted two children with her. They even were thinking about names. One name she likes is Abigail! He used to be a boxer and has messed up teeth, and is now a window washer. A fucking window washer!!! We were both being pretty open about how we feel about everything.
She said that she wears Chris' engagement ring every once in a while, and Stuart became worried about it when he was first meeting her. She said that she never thought it was right for someone to be jealous about something like that. I sort of laughed and disagreed. She said that she knows now that you should be considerate to the other person. She said that she wishes she could get the love letters back from Chris, because she has an inward fear that they might someday come back to haunt her. She mentioned throwing away his, and I told her that she should definitely keep them for sentimental reasons.
She remembered a note that she passed back in forth with this guy once in a high school class. She said it was really funny because they were really cutting each other down. I brought up the ones between Abby and me. I told her the only difference was that we were being perverted and writing about sex and she laughed. We then started talking about Busch Gardens for some reason, namely Andre. She was joking about how he used to hit on her and MichŠle, asking them to go out. I laughed because I remember when that was happening, I just never thought I'd be talking about it again. I told her that he and I used to talk on the phone about them, and she'd love to hear what we said about her! I also said that he used to ask me about liking her, and all of that. She just `Hhmph'ed.
She told me how Stuart asked for her phone number in the printing shop, and a coworker, Jon was really surprised that she did. He asked her why she gave her number to a window washer after all of the men that had come in over the previous two years. She said that there were rich ones, etc. I joked that the only thing they didn't have was interest! and we laughed as she told me to shutup. I pretended like I just found, and still have her phone number on the industrial strength napkin from Busch Gardens. She said that she doesn't like to really give her number when she doesn't expect the guy to ever call her back. She said that she doesn't understand why I guy does this. I truthfully told her that we do it just to show our other guy friends that we got a girls number, whether there is an interest or not.
She mentioned how she calls people nicknames when she writes them letters. I've always wanted to know what Perka-Dan meant on that one letter, so I asked her what my nine meant. She asked what she had called me, Dandelion or Perka-Dan. It turns out that she used to call the other Dan Dandelion. Mine is a kind of really strong muscle relaxant. She then said Perka-Set which she says is another name for it. I pretended that I misunderstood her as saying Perka-sex!!! I then asked her how sex can be relaxing, because I don't think it's possible! It was funny and she said, `Nice try.'
She was talking about Chris again, and she said that she always has been very truthful to anybody when it would come to her relationship with him. She would answer any question. I said, `OK, Kim, tell me the truth...' and paused. I didn't finish the question but she had a good idea of what I was going to ask. She said that she wouldn't answer it now, and I asked why not? She then seemed encouraged and asked me what I wanted to know. I didn't go any further with that. I instead said that it'd be best to ask her in ten years. She told me to make sure that I write it down.
We talked about how a major problem between people is their lack of communication. I used the same argument I used in Gainesville with Emily. I said that if people could just tell each other what they feel, there would be much less confusion, many more opportunities taken advantage of, and more. She heartily agreed.
I then learned of her hypoglycemia. She said that occasional, but not any time recently, she'll get these attacks of severe energy drain where she must eat immediately to solve. She told me of a time when she passed out in the checkout line at an art supply store in Ft. Lauderdale, and once at home. She said that one time Alan left her on the back break and she started getting pale and sick. I remember that day. It's weird that she'll tell me something as personal as that.
She was talking about Gene's little brother, sixteen, and how she was at the beach with him once. I told her that I remember him VERY well! because she used him as an excuse that time I asked her out, saying that she couldn't turn around and see a seventeen year old after turning him down because of his age! She sort of laughed about that.
And then came the remark that is still looming in my mind. She was telling me about this couple that used to live downstairs from her in the same apartment complex as she did. She said that he used to worship Satan and she had a short, spike haircut and both were into bondage sex. She said that she used to be able to hear every move they made and it didn't sound natural. She then said that she wondered if other people could hear her when she was having sex.... She told me that she and Dan were in bed one time and he stopped because he heard strange noises from them and didn't know what it was. I was able to make some pretty funny jokes about that, but still!!!
I just thought to myself that I probably could have slept with her, if I would have tried. I never knew before what her position on having sex was. Her first was with a 22 year old named Danny when she was only sixteen!!! She was telling me that she sees anybody named Danny as being a creep, which is why she calls her brother such. She said that she still likes the name Dan. She also said that all of her feelings for her ex, Dan, disappeared when he called and said that he has a new girlfriend.
I told her about Abigail, and the reason I didn't approve of her choice for her child's name. She still wasn't ready to use any synonyms for sex besides `doing it.' We were talking a lot earlier about how all men are pigs, which I argued against by telling her al that the women do. We then were talking about parents who discouraged their kids from dating a certain person. I told Kim that we wouldn't be running around screwing everybody if adults would just accept the people we choose to be with. Kim agreed. We then started reminiscing about sexual jokes from high school. She was talking about how she acted happy once at work when she broke up with her boyfriend. I told her that I would have asked her if you had just gotten laid. She then used the word to tell me how they joked that a girl needed to get laid once because she was being so bitchy. We opened up so much!
I mentioned Nicole. She asked me if that was the one I used to aggravate. She then said that I used to do something to annoy her, but she couldn't remember what. She said that I knew that I was doing it, though, but it was a long time ago. She said that I don't do anything annoying anymore when I asked. Good.
My image of her has only slightly changed, but I put the blame more on myself for not being more talkative to her all along.
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